School refusal and EBSA
When school becomes too much.
Many young people who stop attending school aren't refusing; they're overwhelmed. Emotionally based school avoidance (EBSA) describes young people who find it very hard to attend because of anxiety or distress linked to school. It's increasingly common, and it's not a choice or a lack of discipline.
Signs it may be EBSA
These are general signs, not a diagnosis.
- Distress or physical complaints, such as stomach aches, before school.
- Difficulty getting out of the house in the morning.
- A reduced timetable or patchy attendance.
- Withdrawal from friends or activities.
- Big feelings at the start or end of the school day.
Why pressure alone rarely works
Increasing pressure can raise anxiety further. Safety and trust usually have to come first.
How RESTA AP helps
Every programme is overseen by an Educational Psychologist.
One consistent, trusted adult
The same RESTA Specialist every session.1:1 sessions in the community
In libraries, cafés, community centres and outdoor spaces, away from the pressure of school.Safety first
Starting with feeling safe, then belonging, identity, choice and planning ahead: the five pathways of the RESTA Framework.Low-demand, interest-led activities
Built around what the young person enjoys.Working together
Closely with families, schools and the local authority.A planned next step
Whether that is school, college or another setting.
What families can do now
- Talk to the school's SENCO (the teacher who coordinates special educational needs support).
- Keep a simple record of attendance and what helps.
- Ask about an EHC needs assessment if needs are significant.
- Contact your local SENDIASS service for free, impartial advice.
- Talk to us.
If you're worried about your child's immediate safety or mental health, contact your GP, NHS 111, or in an emergency 999.
Read more on our page for parents, find out about personal budgets, or see how referrals work.
Every referral starts with a conversation.
If school has become too much for a young person you know, talk to us. We'll listen, and be honest about whether we're the right fit.